Feeling victimised?

Woman in therapy

Traditional treatment for depression is not always the answer”

(guardian article - link below)

As a therapist I understand the writer’s point of view and I hope her friend reported her counsellor to the appropriate professional body. The trouble with depression though is this is how it makes the world seem. Sufferers can only view the situation subjectively - as most people view everything. I agree that CBT has a limited effect; I am person-Centred, working in a much deeper long-term way. However, CBT does work for some people and it does help some people enough for them to get on with their lives, to get back to work for example. Often work itself is the straw that breaks a person’s back - or the people you work with do the damage. It may be that changing jobs or careers is what you really need. This could entail a change of lifestyle that people find hard to accept. Or they may feel they have invested too much or too long in a career (or a relationship) to change. Without accepting the need to do or change something movement can’t take place. So sometimes I do believe a sympathetic authority figure e.g. occupational health may be necessary to nudge someone into recovery. Is that a stick? It could seem that way.


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Cleanse vs Diet ?

You may be the right weight for the amount of toxins in your body and without the protection of fat your vital organs could be poisoned. Fruit and vegetable phytonutrients enable the liver to function correctly and eliminate poisonous waste.

With the Transform30 30 day kickstart programme you can help to heal your body :-


"A person who has too many toxins to process will make new fat cells and store those toxins along with fat in them. This is first a form of self-defense against being poisoned, and second, a strategy to get toxins out of the circulation and away from major organs. This means that some people will not be able to lose any weight at all, regardless of how little they eat, until the acute nature of their plumbing problems are addressed.

It is very clear that these toxins are released back into the circulation during weight loss. This is especially the case during significant weight loss26. During a weight loss of 12 percent of body weight toxins in the blood increased 23 percent - 51 percent, with the heaviest individuals releasing the most toxins27. Over a one year period of weight loss toxic exposure ranged up to a whopping 388 percent. Scientists have shown that such toxins can interfere with thyroid hormone28 function during weight loss.  Human data shows that as the toxins go up in the blood during weight loss the levels of biologically active thyroid hormone (T3)29 go down. This data means that your plumbing and detoxification systems must be in good working condition for healthy weight loss – or possibly even to engage weight loss.

Toxins make you feel irritable. Many people report feeling “poisoned” at a certain point in their weight loss process. Such people will always feel better when they eat a lot of food, as the toxins are pulled out of their blood and placed back in fat – along with plenty of fat.  With a little effort, most people can readily lose weight they have most recently gained. After that, people reach what I like to call it the “toxic plateau.” This means that detoxification strategies may need to be adjusted if weight loss slows too much or stops. In my clinical experience, the difficult-to-lose pounds are typically toxic fat. Strategies to improve detoxification often enable weight loss to proceed. While overweight people who struggle to lose weight with a good diet and exercise have this problem to some degree, those who are the most overweight experience this issue to a greater degree.”

Byron J. Richards, 

Board Certified Clinical Nutritionist http://www.wellnessresources.com/weight/articles/why_toxins_and_waste_products_impede_weight_loss_-_the_leptin_diet_weight_l/

citations include: 

  1. ^ Chemicals Stimulate the Production of Abnormal Fat Cells  Biochem Pharmacol.  Moreno-Aliaga MJ, Matsumura F.
  2. ^ Chemicals Damage Glucose Metabolism of Fat Cells  J Biochem Mol Toxicol.  Olsen H, Enan E, Matsumura F.
  3. ^ Chemical Stimulation of New Fat Cells Impairs Leptin Function by Those Fat Cells  J Steroid Biochem Mol Biol.  Phrakonkham P, Viengchareun S, Belloir C, Lombès M, Artur Y, Canivenc-Lavier MC.
  4. ^ Chemicals Induce Excess Fat to Accumulate in Fat Cells  J Pharmacol Sci  Wada K, Sakamoto H, Nishikawa K, Sakuma S, Nakajima A, Fujimoto Y, Kamisaki Y.
  5. ^ Chemicals Increase Risk for Type 2 Diabetes and Obesity  Obesity (Silver Spring).  Dirinck E, Jorens PG, Covaci A, Geens T, Roosens L, Neels H, Mertens I, Van Gaal L.

Certain days demand that you get your head in the right place in a hurry. Simple strategies can help. But, changing the negative dynamic — pronto — becomes the first order of business.


Certain days demand that you get your head in the right place in a hurry. Simple strategies can help. But, changing the negative dynamic — pronto — becomes the first order of business.

Which would you choose?

I thought I’d misread this initially.  Surely they meant ‘alone for several days - even hours’? But no just 6 - 15 minutes alone is enough to make people reach for the button and self-administer an electric shock. And it’s not the curiosity of what the shock would be like either.

As Blaise Pascal said: “All men’s miseries derive from not being able to sit in a quiet room alone.”

People try to keep busy; they feel they must be doing something.  Some end up totally driven, never being able to rest and relax. It’s the difficulty of being made to face one’s thoughts that seems to trouble people. After therapy most people realise that it’s the fear of those thoughts that causes the anxiety.  Allowing them may bring pain initially but that passes and they are left feeling lighter and free.

http://www.iflscience.com/brain/people-would-rather-experience-electric-shock-be-alone-their-thoughts further details and a link to the study here.

To heal your body, sort your head out first

I am in awe of and exceedingly grateful to, the people who manage to write as succinctly as this. Thanks  & Dr Mark Williamson.

"1. To heal your body, sort your head out first

In 2003 I was a management consultant working long hours on complicated and stressful projects involving stock exchanges. As if the high-pressure job wasn’t enough of a challenge, I had also suffered with chronic back problems for years. I was in near-constant pain, had stopped most physical activity and some days couldn’t even get out of bed.

I saw the best doctors, chiropractors and orthopaedic surgeons, but their diagnoses were depressing. I was told I had a herniated disk and misaligned spine, caused by a hereditary spinal disorder which would continue to get worse. I felt angry and frightened.

The advice which changed everything came from my wife Kate, who gave me a book called Back Sense. She was re-training to be an osteopath and had recognised that my back problems might be related to my stress at work.

When I scanned the book’s cover my first reaction was that it sounded like “new-age nonsense”. As an engineer by background, I was convinced my back problems were structural; there was absolutely no way the pain was “all in my head”. But it turned out that, although I was right about the pain (which was definitely not imagined), I was wrong about the causes - as were the medical ‘experts’ too.

The book explained how most back pain actually comes from muscle tension and that the underlying cause of this is often stress and anxiety. I was deeply unhappy at work, but because I wasn’t acknowledging this, my mental tension and pain were appearing as physical symptoms instead.

Thanks to the book’s advice I made some lifestyle changes to reduce stress and took up mindfulness meditation. I was stunned to find that within a matter of weeks I was almost pain-free and could begin to run and play sport again - having been unable to even walk just a month before!

Over a decade on, I feel fitter than ever and my back now acts as an early-warning “radar” which alerts me if I’m starting to become stressed.

Above all, this whole experience taught me that our mental health has a far bigger impact on our physical health than most of us - including the mainstream medical profession - have yet realised.

2. For big life choices, listen to your heart more than your head

Having finally recognised that it was making me miserable, I left my consulting job to pursue an MBA course, with the intention to move to a new industry.

The MBA included a unique opportunity to meet some very successful business leaders, who all sounded extremely impressive. But when we actually met them I was shocked to find they were self-obsessed and uninspiring! In achieving their “success”, they had all lost something that money couldn’t buy - like their health, marriages, friends, hobbies or values.

But one leader stood out from the others. He was warm and confident but also humble and self-aware. His career path had been diverse and unpredictable and included time working for charitable causes as well as running successful companies.

One of my friends asked him: “How did you plan such a varied and successful career?” His answer was one of my favourite pieces of advice ever:

"When a change or opportunity comes up I just ask myself - which of these things fills me with most energy and enthusiasm? Then I choose to do that thing, whatever it is"

His experience was that when we follow our instincts, we tend to make better life decisions than when we over-analyse or stick to the conventional path others expect us to. And if we’re passionate about what we’re doing, we also tend to do it better and enjoy it more.

Since that moment, whenever I’ve faced a major life choice I’ve tried to listen to my feelings. As a result I turned down the conventional corporate job offers after my MBA and chose to spend the next five years at the Carbon Trust, working on a cause that was much closer to my heart - climate change. And I never looked back.

3. Spend more time with people you love, doing things you care about

In 2010 I found myself struggling again. Although my job was much more fulfilling, my life remained out of balance. I was still working long hours; I was desperate to be seen as ‘successful’ by others - and I was often putting work commitments ahead of my family.

To help improve my work-life balance, I took the opportunity to work with a very talentedcoach called Aiden, who led me on a journey of self-discovery that had a huge impact.

One day Aidan asked me to imagine that I was nearing the end of my life. I had to picture what that would be like and how I’d feel looking back over all the highs and lows; the achievements and sorrows. Then he asked me a question which was devastatingly simple, but something I’d never really thought about before:

"What advice would your future self give you about what really matters now?"

So my third piece of life-changing advice actually came - somewhat surprisingly - from myself! Or rather from my “future self”. And it was a powerful wake-up call:

"Spend more time with people you love, doing things you care about".

It seems obvious. But I was spending too much time obsessing about what I wanted to achieve and what others thought of me. And as a result I was getting increasingly consumed by my work and I wasn’t there enough for my family.

Although I was passionate about my job, I also realised that it wasn’t the best use of my strengths. What I really wanted to do was to encourage a greater societal focus on wellbeing and the things that really matter for a happy life.

So I quit my job to set up and run the Action for Happiness movement, which has been by far the most rewarding project I’ve ever worked on. Although many friends thought it was a strange move, it is an absolute privilege to do a job where I feel I can make a difference on issues I really care about; and to work with inspiring, like-minded people.

But above all, I also made a personal commitment to put family first. It’s still a struggle to get the balance right. But over the last four years I’ve avoided working at weekends - and I’ve been there for countless school runs, choir shows, sports days and day-to-day family activities. And I wouldn’t change it for the world.

So what advice has changed your life?

And what would your “future self” recommend that you do differently?”

full article here: http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/dr-mark-williamson/happiness-tips_b_5551505.html